Overfunctioning & Boundaries

Do You Have 5 Minutes for Yourself?

Leave a Comment / Overfunctioning & Boundaries / By Conni LeFon

A friend told me recently that she and her friends need programs like the Midlife Unfiltered Experience Bundle I’m part of. Resources. Support. Community. Things that might actually help them navigate this season.

But they can’t do it. Because they don’t have five minutes to themselves.

And I sat with that for a while. Because I know it’s true. I know there are women who genuinely don’t have five minutes. Who are caring for aging parents and young kids and working full time and holding everything together. Who collapse into bed at night and wake up the next morning wondering if they can do it all over again.

But I also know something else. Sometimes “I don’t have time” isn’t actually about time. It’s about permission.

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What If You’re Not Behind? What If You’re Just at Capacity?

Most of us think about our undone tasks as things we’re failing to get to. Projects on the back burner. Things we should be working on but aren’t. Evidence that we’re not managing our time well enough or prioritizing correctly.

We carry this low-level guilt about everything we’re not doing. The course we haven’t built yet. The closet we haven’t organized. The trip we haven’t planned. The creative project we haven’t started.

And we tell ourselves that if we were just more disciplined, more focused, more efficient, we’d find a way to get to all of it.

But that’s not how capacity works.