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The Invisible List, Part 3: What You Do When You Can’t Unknow It
The Invisible List series ends here – with the anger that’s been building, what it actually means, and the one thing that comes after it that isn’t rage or collapse.
The Invisible List, Part 2: What You’ve Been Swallowing for Years
The invisible list doesn’t stay at home. Part 2 of this series is about the slower, quieter erosions — the ones that happen at work, in public, in the spaces where women learn to smile and move on.
The Invisible List, Part 1: The Work Nobody Sees
Most women carry a list no one else sees — planning, anticipating, managing everything just enough to keep it from falling apart. This is Part 1 of a three-part series on the labor that disappears into the background of your life.
The People Who Need You to Stay Stuck
There’s a question that doesn’t get asked enough in conversations about change.
We talk a lot about why it’s hard to grow. We talk about fear, and comfort zones, and the weight of old habits. What we talk about less is this: who benefits when you don’t?
When one more thing feels like too much
A friend told me recently that what I offer sounds great and genuinely helpful, but she just doesn’t have the time and energy for one more thing.
I believe her completely. Time and energy really are in short supply for most of us, especially the women I talk to most. But the more I sat with it, the more I started to wonder if time was the whole story, or if it was just part of a more complicated story.
The People Who Liked You Better Before
Because when you start to change, some of the people in your life will struggle with it. And how they respond can range from a flicker of discomfort to walking away entirely. It’s tempting to make this entirely about them. Sometimes that’s fair. But not always. And the not always is where I want to spend this week.