There’s a question that doesn’t get asked enough in conversations about change.
We talk a lot about why it’s hard to grow. We talk about fear, and comfort zones, and the weight of old habits. What we talk about less is this: who benefits when you don’t?
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A friend told me recently that what I offer sounds great and genuinely helpful, but she just doesn’t have the time and energy for one more thing.
I believe her completely. Time and energy really are in short supply for most of us, especially the women I talk to most. But the more I sat with it, the more I started to wonder if time was the whole story, or if it was just part of a more complicated story.
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Because when you start to change, some of the people in your life will struggle with it. And how they respond can range from a flicker of discomfort to walking away entirely. It’s tempting to make this entirely about them. Sometimes that’s fair. But not always. And the not always is where I want to spend this week.
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And then comes the part nobody warns you about.
You’ve done that work. You’ve seen something true about yourself that you didn’t see before. And you wait for that knowledge to change things.
And then you find yourself doing the exact same thing again.
Not because you forgot. Not because you didn’t mean it. But because knowing something and living differently because of it are two completely separate skills, and nobody tells you that. We talk about self-awareness like it’s the finish line. Like once you see the thing clearly, the thing loses its power.
It doesn’t work that way.
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